Does our life depend on the movement of Moon/Stars/Sun?

We all have heard about astrology, sun signs, our stars, palmistry, our life being ruled by movement of Stars/Moon/Sun. I will not say if I have never believed all this. It will be a lie. I do believe. But, more then this, I believe in that super power which exists and which guides us to to do good in life for our own selves and to other beings. Also, I believe in myself, that who actually I am and can be to myself and to this world. I can make or break my life; by my thoughts, by my way of living the same.

Even today I do have, somewhere deep in the brains or in the heart,belief on this connection between what is happening in our lives and reason for which are these stars and astrology. But, for sure, there is a doubt now..Hmmm...let me try to recall some instances in my life and some in my friends' lives.

When I was a kiddoo, going to the school. As usual, not studying before hand and getting tensed a day before the exam. Sitting in front of the God, I used to pray "God, this time. Please save me. Pls...From next time, I swear, will study hard from day 1 and will not trouble you, Pls, God. Pls................." Big tears from my eyes used to melt my dear God and hence at the end I used to get good marks. Thanks to HIM!!!

One day, I heard one of my friends saying that when she was crying the other day before her exams; her brother explained her one simple thing - You are wasting your time by crying. You can use the same time to study and give your best. There will be situations in life when these tears will not be able to help you. You will have to be bold enough to face the world. And, Once, you are sure, that you have given your best, just say to God - "Hey God, I have tried my level best. Now. I leave on you. Please help me and do the best for me". I really liked this. Till date, I have been following this along with the on and off cries in front of the God. Things have worked and if they haven't worked, I thought, maybe it was not for me and God knew the best so I didn't get it and will surely get the best later.

Grew from childhood to teens to adult hood with this small funda of life, trying to look at the positive side of whatever was happening. Trying my level best to get the best, to do the best in each aspect of life, career, studies, family, friends....Always being optimistic of the things and keeping that smiling face always on....coz, whatever was happening was happening for a reason, so not to worry just keep giving your best....Many things happened in between. Let's skip the autobiography of myself.. :)))

Class 11th which decides what and how you will be moving in your life. I took PCMB which is considered to be one of the toughest selections. Took it, did well in boards but could not fulfill the dreams of seeing myself saving the lives of others. Went for Engineering, the next line which was never the plan; never dreamt to be one, but I graduated as an Electronics Engineer. Sometimes, I used to think, Somebody had rightly said --->"Whatever happens, happens for Good". Maybe I would not have been a good doctor and God knew this so, he took the right decision for me.

          Some more years of my life went in getting graduated, first job, post   

          graduation, 2008-09 recession time getting the job with the

          God's grace.  

          Finally landed up in my current company.

          Most of all this said above has happened with all of us. Some of my

          friends, faced some of the really bad times of life.  And being their   

          friend, I always kept saying that something really good is in store for

          you. If some body's love life was in a bad shape due to some or the

         other reason, my response in handling it was trying to look in future    

         and being optimistic and positive. I could talk to them for hours trying  

         to pull them out of all those negative thoughts and saying that If 

         something has to go, it will go;don't hold it as its not yours and all

         those fundas..which we keep liking on FB.

There are many more such instances which can be outlined...

Getting back to any common man's life(Man or a Woman). As part of the Sine Curve, sometimes, things are going too good. He is doing good in his career, personal life is rocking but one decision of the life brings the sine curve below and it goes even beyond the basement that it changes his/her life, his lifestyle, his thoughts, his way of looking at the things, his career, everything, his future....Why???

Even if he tries to come out of it, he is not able to. Does this Shani kee Sadesati concept exists??? That means, if some body's life has started to move down, it will keep moving down for years??? Why??? Why ??? Till the Moon or Sun God will not move from this position to the next position.

Why some body's patience is tested to the level that the person can breakdown? Is there any learning in actual in this process of Sine Curve of God? There are many such questions which keep coming in my mind, seeing and listening to my friends and hence the conflict to believe the belief which has been there always with me since childhood that whatever happens, happens for a reason and something better of the best in in store for myself and one day I will get my share of happiness; but here I want to ask if a person looses all the patience and his hopes of rising up one day, then what is this Better of the Best???

Today sitting on the terrace and looking at the moon makes me look back at my life and some of the lives of my friends, that does this movement of the star/moon/sun make a difference in any body's lives? Does God really exist and is he doing all this intentionally - Why - Because we have to follow the theme of the movie 'Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gam'???

I agree with the lines that success is sweeter after all the struggle and success is more valued and you will understand what smile is etccc......................................................But............Why????

Smilingly Simple Life with No Preconceived Judgements

Holding my cute little niece in my arms brings the smile on my face, takes off all the stress. Playing with this few months old kiddoo who has no name as of now, just wants one to play more n more with her and not think of issues, challenges, hikes, appraisals, work and more stupid things of life.

Some months back when she was just few weeks old, we all were sitting and playing with her. Somebody commented - Humans are the most developed of all the living beings but are the most dependent beings when they are born and they remain so for quiet a few years. Didn't give much thought to this as just looking at this innocent child and keeping her in the arms was the best thing one wanted to do, rather think seriously about this.

Today, while I playing and looking at her trying to crawl, hold the hand....., made me think about the above comment made long time back. Isn't this the fact.. I am sure, all the parents would be able to comment better.

Human kids are so dependent on their mothers and other family members for sure to grow, to learn how to eat, walk, sit, do so many other things. I mean to say they cannot grow without somebody else taking care of them. If we see other living beings(animals) they do also need their mothers to teach them basics but they learn all this very fast and can live independently without the need of their mother after few days or weeks but human child needs 1-2 years and if we see otherwise some more years to be able to go out and live on their own without anybody's support. And this gets into our nature that we are always dependent on somebody else. Even those who say they are not and show that they are very much independent and don't need anybody, tell the lie of their life.

When the child is born, he is dependent on his mother for his food, for his care, for his growth in the best way. As he grows, for sure, he remains dependent on his parents forever(depends on the context in which we can say he is dependent or its just his and their love for which we use this small word "dependent"). School Time, he is dependent on his teacher, his classmates for the best education which he will get and become a good person.

 Now, it depends on us how and in which way we consider this word 'Dependent'. Many of us might take this word as 'Evil/Bad' word for anybody's growth and in today's world everybody wants to be independent.

Child after 4-5 years will say 'Parents, I am not dependent on you. It is your responsibility to do everything for me.'.

Wife says to husband' I am earning well, I am very much independent' and Husband echoes the same words.

Colleagues are independent of each other.

I am sure, we all want Independent wives, kids, husbands, parents to make life easy.

But, the emotional part of this person wants to say that what is wrong in being dependent. Let's look it other way round. Just to give different perspective, I will try giving some examples. When a wife says to her husband - 'Hey, please come and pick/drop myself to the office whenever you can and have time'. It depends on how we look at this. Husband can think - 'What a lady, can't she live, come and go on her own, she is very much educated and why is she being dependent on me. Other way to look at it is - Wow, this is such a good opportunity to get some more minutes with my wife. In this fast pace world when we both are working so hard on our career and get so much less time for each other. Its a good idea to drive down to her office whenever I get some time.

So, it depends on how we look at the idea. Is it actually dependency or is it love or is it the time one wants to spend with her/his loved ones. As we know this famous saying - 'Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder'

Somehow, I feel we interpret this word 'Dependent' in a wrong way. We assume, we interpret the way we want to, but not the way it is in actual.

Another example - As I said above, that Human Child is the most dependent on all the living beings. We all see this and its the very fact. But, isn't this human child and this dependency which gets the mother child, grandparents - grandchildren, parents - child relationships so close and strong. Does any other living being has such a close and strong attachment with other. It is just because of this dependency which the child has built up in his infancy that gets him close to his family and he understands the value of family, love, care.

Haven't we seen the cases/situations wherein child doesn't like his family coz. they did not give him time when it was required by him.

Why this difference of views for the same situation? Why most people take the word dependency in a wrong sense. Why don't we try to see the other side of the coin that it might not be actually dependency but the way of showing love, care and more closeness.

Also, why cant we differentiate between professional dependency and personal dependency/love/care/closeness???

For sure, when we face the Professional world and we are out in this world, we need to be independent and have to give out best and look up to take up the next position and work beyond our own capabilities. We should be doing the work on our own and work with the teams and be a leader to get the best out of ourselves for our organization.

And in our personal lives, we should be very much independent in most of the things, but there are some situations when you look forward that your child or your spouse should discuss with you and let you know and then take a joint decision over some situation or you look upon your parents, your spouse, friends to help you in deciding certain things. This should not be considered as being dependent nature of that person or taken as a negative personality of that person. It is known as giving value to that person. People looks upon you for certain situations as they trust you with their most precious possessions, thoughts etc.. They count on your faith and care you have shown to them. This shows that how much value you have in your life and you are reliable, so you should be cherishing this and not considering this as a liability. They value you and your decisions. Why cant we be happy coz. of this and rather find faults and issues?

Let's keep our lives smilingly Simple. If somebody looks upon us and is looking for something. Don't put the judgmental shoes and build up that this person cannot do anything or so many other things which come to the mind. We need to understand, get in his shoes and help him out at that point not by spoon feeding him but working with him to make him independent but don't take his dependency in the literal sense of this word but maybe take it up as his faith, his love, his care, his closeness, his reliability and confidence on you.

Vicious Cycle of Good and Bad!!!

 

Vicious Cycle of Good and Bad!!!

 

Saturday...Weekend Starts....Got up late, nobody else at home as all the family members are out of station for some or the other work. Household work, ready, breakfast done. Didn't feel like going out anywhere. Wanted to spend some time with myself, sleep, eat, read...Its almost afternoon and I thought why not read the newspaper...before I open my laptop and login on Facebook.
Normally, I read the editorial page of Times of India. Most of the time, the thoughts in the 'Speaking Tree' are good to read.

 

Today's article was also good. It was regarding the ten characteristics which a person should have for whatever reasons. For me the reason is to be happy and smiling at the end of the day.
So let's check out what those 10 characteristics are:
1. Earth/Patience.
2. Forgiveness
3. Control
4. Not to steal anything physically or mentally
5. Internal and External Cleanliness
6. Control over the Sensory and Motor Organs
7. Benevolent Intellect
8. Internal Assimilation of External Objectives
9. Truth
10. Non Anger
Had to read the article almost 3-4 times to understand it as per my way of living the life.

 

Many thoughts ran across while reading all this.
Is it possible and easy to have all the above 10 characteristics in this today's world, wherein we all are running around, competing against each other, fighting against ourselves and then our family and then our neighbors and then this world, wanting so many things and if we don't compete, fight, get angry, and so much more...., will it not be tough to live a family and a social life?? Will I actually get smile on my face if I have all this in me? Will I be able to live a easy personal and professional life????Or, all this is just for personal life and not professional? Does it mean, I should have two personalities?? Too many questions...
Ok, suppose if I follow and imbibe all the characteristics written above (by the way, I do have and good percentage of each of them.. :))) so to get 100% won't be tough)but what about others, they will still not be like this and hence, when I come across a person who is at 0% of not having all these characteristics and say I have 100% of all written above..What then?After all, I am a human being. I will be hurt, if I keep forgiving and the other person keeps hurting me. Some day, even my patience will loosen out and I will blast. Volcano is blasting finally. Right???Its like a vicious circle, Isn't it????

So, is it really possible?????

 

Fine, let's leave the humans.
Take the case of an iron.
Iron till the time, we don't do anything has lots n lots of patience. Does nothing. Simple. But,one day a very smart human being comes and he starts hitting this iron who has 100% level of patience in herself(Somewhat similar to the drunken husband beating his wife). But, our sweet little iron is quiet, saying nothing as it has the characteristic of having patience. But till when????? She has not been saying anything, forgiven him for hitting it once, twice, thrice and infinite no. of times. Now, she gets angry and breaks down, no more patience is left and either she gets converted to steel or is broken down into two pieces. Isn't it the case of diamonds made out of rocks and many more other examples which we all keep liking on the facebook to share the flexibility, strength, perseverance and what not...

 

So, somewhat like iron most of these dumb materials have all the above mentioned characteristic; if they can break down in extremes of the situation? What about we humans? We have emotions, we have brains to think, but still we break down..

 

Now, someone might say that we have brains to think and hearts to love. Awesome things given by the God Particle or by God or by DNA's or..... Let the smart people work on this.

 

Time to sleep and think if having even 50% level of each of the above characteristics is enough or complete 100% is required. Will I get my smiles at the end of the day?????

 

Poem by Laura Cummings summarises this. Link http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/a-vicious-cycle/
Some lines from her poem:
Whipped around, a vicious cycle
full of life and death, each vital to survival.
Giving up, making a new start, taking a chance on something new
Still making no sense at all, but perhaps it's not meant to.
Degrading, crushing, Encouraging, freeing
Compromise, age, learning to wait.
Life and death, each vital to survival.



I want this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



 

Gone are the days...But, not the memories....

Missing those School Days...Wanna go Back!!!

Growing up,
The calamities of adolescence;
Perpetual obstacles, hindering our ability to enjoy the simple things in life.
Incessantly surrounded by drama, “he-said, she-said” gossip,
petty arguments, and the tragic dilemmas of teenage life.
They say these are the best years of our lives.
Stressful schoolwork, the frustration and pressure to do your best, always give 110%.
Imperative decisions and choices that are crucial towards your future,
and the rest of your life are essentially necessary to be made
Right now.
The overwhelming distress and distraught feelings are overpowering.
They say these are the best years of our lives.
And I couldn’t agree more.
For nothing I’d trade the memories made.
The laughter and cheer throughout all of the years outweighs everything else
Making it all worthwhile.
Does it really have to end?

Poem by someone who also felt the same when he/she graduated from his school. Done with my schooling years back, but last week, was cleaning my cupboard and found a big bundle of something. I opened it as had nothing else to do...There came out the cards n cards, letters, write ups and so many in number. I just sat down and started reading each and every card, write up and letters. I was back to my School..Flashback ..almost 10 years back..
I looked at them and laughed n cried..I didnt expect this from myself but it reminded me of my School - Army Public School, my friends, my twelve years, my first educational institute, my first step after my home.

Cards were all those cute ones, but I am sure, each one of them was a value to me at that time and has more n more value to me today.
Such sweet Cards..All the Best, Happy B'Day Cards...Exam Time Card, New Year Cards, Festival Wishing Cards. Some are Handmade, some are bought.
But all this brings back memories of the best time of life. Well said "Savor the moments that are warm, special and giggly."So True "Friendship is like a violin; the music may stop now and then, but the strings will last forever. But every memory of friendship shared, even for a short time, is a treasure, like sunshine and warmth in our lives, like a cool breeze on a humid day, like a shower of rain refreshing the earth."

Now, very special mention of my friend - Meghana Pathania.She was in our School for Class 4 and Class 5. Her father was in Army and hence she had to leave the school as he got posted outside Delhi.

I really don't remeber how come we got so good, so great friends at that age of 8/9 that we decided to write letters to each other. There was no FB or emails during those times. I went through her letters and realized that we were writing even after a year of school and then somehow dont know what happened, why I dont have a letter of hers. Why did we not remain in touch after that? It just means that for almost 7-8 years we were writing to each other. Wow, this sounds so good.
And the letters are so cute. I am sure, I must have written something of the same sort to her, something if we read now, will look how stupid and dumbos we were.  I don't know, why we used to write those letters but now looking back I feel all this makes so sense, doesnt it make sense?
We used to write on that blue inland letters. There was not even a single area which was left unwritten. I am sure, nobody uses those letters now in this fast Internet Facebook World. I have some of her handmade cards too. Such cute and loving messages which I can never get now from anyone.

No idea where she is, what she is doing. But, reading each line of her reminds me of that slim beautiful Meghana. Meghana, I don't know dear, where you are. I tried on Facebook, but no luck.
I agree to this "Friends are the most important part of our life. Treasure the tears, treasure the laughter, but most importantly, treasure the memories"...I have done that and now I am looking forward to meet you somehow, somewhere dear.



Today sitting on my bed and recollecting memories of my school days shows that those were the moments close to my heart and I am holding onto the things I love, what I am today, the things I never want to loose. Schooldays, I believe, are the happiest in the whole span of human existence.
Most of us would agree that the days spent in school are/were certainly the best days of our lives.
Its in school tht we make our first frind, have our first crush, compete to excel, hope for places in the sports teams, eating lunch boxes during classes,and learn our first lessons abot life.

For those whose school is now forever OVER. I still can't get over it - I feel like I'll be going back next year and seeing all the same people, but I won't be one of them! I'm happy and sad about graduating, I guess that's how most people feel.Those who are in school think that when I will grow up n go to college and then to work. But belive me as you grow you will get bored with the narrow mindedness of the things around yourself, closeness of life, and to find yourself as just time machines which is racing against time. Really School Says are the golden days. People call it SCHOOL, but its LIFE.