Be Quick; But Don't Hurry!!!

Zoooooooooooooooooooom………..Bike passed by me so fast that it almost gave me a heart attack. I stopped for 3-4 seconds, looked at both the biker and the bike which were already very far from me and nodded my head.I normally walk down to near by places and even to my office so have experienced such minor heart attacks n number of time.

 

Today being a Saturday and I was not in a hurry and luckily mind was also not occupied with anything so somehow my mind drifted towards this bike and biker.

Why was he driving so fast? Was he one of those young brats – rash driver or was he in a hurry?

Normally when we see any biker or car driving like this, we feel like shouting at them, abusing (if one can) and ask - Hey why are you driving so fast? Can’t you see that people are walking on the footpath or crossing the road and many more things can be said to him.

For sure rash driving is bad but today I felt that is it always done intentionally or it becomes a requirement of that particular moment.

The person who is driving fast must be of doing so coz. of two reasons – One is for fun, show off and etc.. But there can be one more reason which we normally never think that he might be in a hurry due to some genuine reason, a reason which is making him break laws, giving minor heart attacks to people on the road and would not want to say the worse of the things which can happen in such situations.

I am not here to write if rash driving is right or wrong. For sure, it is wrong and would never approve of it or ever try it.

This situation made me think that normally the person who know the reality or is facing the situation would only know what n why is he going through. The person walking on his side would not understand the facts and hence should not give any judgement without knowing the reality. One should not just start thinking bad or feel bad or to even say good about this person who is going through. He/She might not even have the time to explain the situation to the world. He is just running n running.

 BUT

Somebody has put it down so well. Might make us think atleast once:

I'm in a hurry to get things done
Oh I rush and rush until life's no fun
All I've really gotta do is live and die
But I'm in a hurry and don't know why....

But, not sure still would say one should try not to be in hurry. We should not loose our inner peace for whatsoever reason as someone has said - "Nature is never in hurry but still accomplishes everything"
If we want to live this life, enjoy the breathes we have; we need to live each moment and grow with the each smile of ours and around us. Life is more clear when we see and feel each moment but the time when we start running, it becomes blurred. We can find ways if we are not in hurry.

“Growth happens slowly, slow down today enjoy life without been in hurry”

Keep Smiling... :)

Dot is ‘The End’ and ‘The Beginning’....

Last 5 months, working, thinking, eating, sleeping Dot…Dot…Dot…Hey, don’t look at me like this, I am working on a Project which is known as ‘Dot’ and it’s a continuous work and hence my releases are Dot Releases. So, now you might have got the hint that this Dot of my life made me think about this word dot and hence this post.

You must have got confused that what is this Dot Release. Yes, I am working in a project wherein the Project which is always live and dynamic and goes for deployment almost every 2 weeks and so is known as Dot Release. This post is not make you understand the technicality of my work, which even I don’t understand. For a change, let me get out of the Official Dot.

Dot Dot Dot (……………..) isn’t this part n parcel of our lives. We all have dots in our life from the day we land on this earth; not even land even before that. Our beginning is with dots and our body is made up of so many and different type of dots (RBC, WBC, etccc……)

Learning of alphabets starts with joining of dots.

Each dot of our friendship helps us to make friends, networks and what not.

Dot is the beginning and the End. Did I confuse you?

Let me try to put it again. First I will talk about end and then the beginning…..

When we put a single dot at the end of the sentence, it is the full stop and that’s the end. Similarly, one day each one of us is going to meet our dot and that will be the end of our journey on this earth. Also, why go till the end, even sometimes we have to put dot to certain relations in our life as they hurt us. So that’s the end. For sure, there are many more examples of the ending Dot.

So, you must be thinking how can dot start the sentence?? It’s the dot only which starts the sentence. Since, we have put the dot to the first sentence, we can write a new one. As we put end to certain things-certain relations; which give pain, then only we can get smiles in our life. It is the dot only which gives us the direction to remain connected and hence I feel these dots if connected in a particular and the right direction gives the hope,

hope to get back the life again, hope to smile again and surely to make a difference in our life.

As I wait for my dots to get connected one day and for sure never end, I just wanna say it again Dot is ‘The End’ and ‘The Beginning’……….

Fight between Sun and Cloud!!!

<< Something which I wrote sometime back in January, but now got time to post>>>

 

Few days back, I took this early morning flight from Delhi. All of you who are not from North must have seen on FB if not newspapers that it’s been very cold, foggy, biting, sometimes harsh and otherwise crispy weather in Delhi and around. Luckily, even I got the opportunity to feel the same for few days.

I am not here to describe the weather. I was dead tired coz. of my hectic schedule of last 2-3 days and I thought I will doze off and will have a good sleep for the next 2 hours so as to get ready for the as usual busy day. But something caught my attention and my plan of sleeping went in water.

Looking outside the window pane of the plane made my eyes forget the sleep and wanting to live that moments via my eyes open rather than closed. 6 layers of Color around the plane got this amateur Zoe to put down something. From bottom to top (BlackàDark Orangeà Light Yellow àGryeishà Off White àLight Blue) For sure, this is not VIBGYOR, but it was awesome.

As I was enjoying looking at the beautiful layer of lovely colors, suddenly a big rush of dark greyish clouds came from somewhere in between my eyes and those colors. Gradually, layer by layer, these black clouds took over the beautiful layer of colors. Poor lovely dark orange was trying its best not to get knocked out by this dark cloud. But, even inspite of trying hard, after sometime, there was no other color which could be seen but only the dark, grey clouds all around the plane. Something like, its 12 in the afternoon and suddenly there is no sun (Solar Eclipse). Full darkness all around one.

Huge turbulence in the air, the pilot asked the passengers not to panic and fasten the seat belts; But the flight did not stop, it kept flying through these dark clouds which was trying its level best to stop the journey of 200+ people. 

  

But, our plane and indirectly we 200+ people gave a good fight to the black clouds and after some time, we could see the glowing red orangish sun. It was lovely to see so much brightness and feel the same inside. I could feel the energy flowing in me.

As usual, I tried to relate this to the human life. Whenever any hindrance comes in our life, some of us keep moving and others stop. Isn’t it? Wasn’t this scenario so similar to our lives? Not sure, about the world, but from my view point I feel this journey of mine is very well part of each one’s of our life. This flight journey was so similar to the life which we all face/lead. Sometimes, life is full of sun and otherwise, it’s surrounded by black clouds.  There is no way out that we can completely block these black clouds from entering our lives. But, it’s our call to give some punches to these black clouds to come out as winners. We should not stop even when the clouds are trying to overpower us. We need to give a good fight to these clouds and not let them surround us for long. As we keep walking through the odds of our life, we will face the turbulences which will deter us from moving ahead, which will ask us to stop, which will take off all our energy but as we keep moving, for sure we will see the bright streaks of light which will give back our energy to move and enjoy this life of ours. One day for sure, we will see that bright glowing Orange Reddish Sun which will again bring the smile on our face. Now it is our call what do we want to have.

Shades up or down of life, either just stand when surrounded by the clouds or keep moving so that we get to see the Sun one day.    Keep Smiling... :))) 

 

Fear

Fear of height, fear of closed space, fear of water, fear of dying, fear of being loved, fear of loneliness…I am sure, each one of us has some or the other fear. Isn’t it?

Do you think are these the actual fears for which we have some scientific terms also –

aquaphobia,  altophobia, microphobia, etc….. I saw somewhere and found it very true. It’s not fear of height but we are afraid of falling.  It’s not being afraid of the crowd and people around us but we are afraid of rejections. In actual, we are not afraid of love but afraid of not getting back the love. The fact is we are not afraid of trying again but we are afraid of failing or getting hurt for the same reason.

Since childhood, I have been listening from my parents and most of you must have – Child Be bold, don’t fear anything, anybody. But, somehow I could not let this word ‘fear’ to get erased from my personal dictionary. As I look back, I figured out a very simple reason, As I was growing up, I saw my mother being fearful of me letting me crawl or walk out of the home as a child, my father being afraid of me getting hooked up with bad boys during my teenage, my brother being afraid, if I would fail in the exams and thanks to my friends who did help me to identify different other types of fears. So it’s very clear that I grew within and with this fear only, so how can I just chuck it off now coz. of listening to some speeches or reading some books.

At this stage, would like to ask you? Do you have any fear????

For sure, this fear is very much part and parcel of our lives. After my infancy and even your infancy, you have been fearful in one or the other way – fearful of the big beard man, fearful of teachers, parents, proposals, love, marriage, job, divorce, parenting and many more in line and not to miss the fear of lizards, cockroaches, ghost, water…We are surrounded, diving in this world of fear. As per the Oxford dictionary says word fear means “An unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm” . I agree to this definition but does it really imply in such simple terms in the the real life.

Talking with one of my very close friends who is going via a very bad phase of her life. Divorce. Right now she is fearful of loneliness, she is fearful of loving someone again. She is fearful of starting the life again. Talking to her for hours, made me think about this word fear and hence from wherein this topic for my post. She went in for the arranged marriage, said No to the person whom she loved coz. her parents were not in favor of the love marriage. Like a sweet Indian girl, excited about her marriage, her status changed from Single to Married. Within a week, she got to know that she was deceived. Certain Reasons, which are out of scope of this post. She tried to fight with the situation. Why??? Coz she was fearful of moving out of the marriage, coz. she was fearful of the society, coz. she was fearful of the word Divorcee. Situation went bad. She was almost on the verge of loosing herself, fully fearful and at that point somehow she decided to move out of this Marriage. Today she is out from her so called Marriage, but still fearful and fearful of starting her life again. She was never fearful of love but today she is coz. of the unexpected situations which happened in her life. As the world says – Time is the biggest healer and I also pray that this should help her to regain her strength and one day she is able to give a good fight to these fears and start living again. Her past experience is holding her back and this is not letting her smile which is for sure her right. It’s only she who can give a punch to all these fears and smile back again. It is just the mind game dear friends. No one else except for ourselves who can move out or fight these fears. I am sure, many of you also might have gone through such situations. Many of you might have come out of it; Many of you might be trying to come out of these. I wish all of us All the Best!!!

So, let’s all give punches to our fears, by trying out our own methodologies. There are number of reali life examples in front of us to see and learn and hence implement. It’s only us who can make the difference to ourselves.

Would like to end with the few lines from the book - The Secret Letters of the Monk who Sold his Ferrari - What holds us back in life is in the invisible architecture of fear. It keeps us in our comfort zones, which are, in truth, the least safe places in which to live. But every time we do that which we fear, we take back the power that fear has stolen from us – for on the other side of our fear lives our strength. Every time we step into the discomfort of growth and progress, we become more free. The more fears we walk through, the more power we reclaim. In this way, we grow both fearless and powerful, and thus are able to lives the lives of our dreams.

Be frearless ………..Be Free…. Keep Smiling

Poor Little Date!!!

Recalling something made me post on FB few days back:

You love some dates…

                      You hate some dates

You want to remember each and every moment of some dates...

                     You want to avoid each and every moment which reminds us of some dates....

One Single Date, You love it n You hate it...

                      Poor little Date, what should it do???

There were some comments and this made me think more and I decided to put down something after a long time.

We all have some or the other dates – B’day, Anniversaries, Engagement, first day when he took my hand in his, first date when he gave me a flower, divorce, first date when we fought and many more such dates. Some of these dates, we forget, but some dates either bring smile on our face and some make us look at the wall for hours n hours and at the end make the eyes watery.

Sometime back, I heard two of my friends:

Hey Nisha, I hope you are coming over to my place for the party tomorrow. It’s my 2^nd Marriage Anniversary. I am so thankful to my hubby to be on my side. Thanks to God, for getting us together.

Ohh, Richa that’s good to hear…Congrats and All the Best for the coming years….Tomorrow is my Anniversary also, but I got divorced 2 years back on the same date.

One date – Bringing the Smile on Richa’s face and tears in Nisha’s eyes.

                                             Irony of The Poor Little Date

We all have faced such situations, isn’t it? There are some dates in each one of our lives which we just love it, want to celebrate it each month, each year and look forward for it to come back again n again. 
For sure, on the other side of the coin, there are some dates about which when we think, brings goosebumps, tears, loud cry, shivers all over the body.

Is it the mistake of this poor little date? Or let’s try blaming our luck, that such n such thing happened, coz. time was bad or it’s our bad luck or the day was not good to start this event and many more such reasons.

What say??? Which one do you believe in?

Friends, none of the above is the actual fact. You know, I know, We all know. It is just that we always try to find something to blame on for all the bad things which have happened to us in our lives. It is just the state of mind. So, It’s not any type of our luck coz. of which one is smiling and other is sad. It’s just some situations, certain circumstances which let you be on either side of the river.  Most of us think that if we were only in some other place, had someone else in our life, or had some other job, we would be happy. Well, that is doubtful.

So, I feel that get as much happiness out of what you are doing as you can and don't put off being happy until some future date.

Everybody says and even big philosophers have said - Time is the biggest healer. But, somehow from my view point, time is a healer for sure but can you forget certain things, certain dates of your life which made you change your direction of life, your thoughts, your lifestyle, changed you as a person. Can you forget those dates???? Can time heal this??? Sorry to say but as per my views “NO”. Also, I feel, we should not forget those dates. But, yes we should not keep crying, cribbing over it. We are also entitled to get the best from our Dates. So, yes the time is the healer in the sense that it gives you the direction gradually, gradually to flow with what is happening or to flow the other way round, or to change your path. A day, good or bad, always passes by n u get something else. And we just hate or like a date.

What say!!! Let’s live each experience as it passes; the way we live our seasons, days; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each. Maybe each experience of mine till date and in the coming days, had and will have the date with destiny, so I need to be pretty and at my best. Isn’t it, I need to look the best for my dates.

I got some comments on my FB Post. Let’s try to look at those angles also.

I am sure, most of you must have gone on Dates. Some might have turned out sweet and some sour. So, either blind or planned dates which we go out for, somehow land in either being bad or good. Similar to the above lines, might make you remember it forever either this way or the other way.

Let’s check out one more angle – Dates. Have you eaten Dates. Some of you like and some don’t.  Again, poor single date – loved by some and hated by some.

So whichever, whatever types of dates you talk, it finally seems to have two sides, for some it’s good and for some its bad. Same thing/ same situation but two results. At this point I am able to recall one comedy serial which used to come on SAB TV where this character used to keep saying that if you do this, there are two options and that his infinite options used to irritate people but today looking back, there was so much weight in that comedy.

Would like to say even if a particular date was good or bad, Date is important coz. What is done on those dates is of value. So, let’s not wait for dates to tell or figure out how one should live his life.  We should just live and enjoy the moment. Atleast try to……

 
As someone has said:

With a bit of a mind flip………………

                   You're into the time slip.

And nothing can ever be the same…………

                   You're spaced out on sensation.

Like you're under sedation………………

                   Let's do the time-warp again.