Women-Should we not be appreciated & loved everyday and not just March 8th?

Everywhere on FB/Newspaper/TV/Company Celebrations we can see women being appreciated for being on this Earth, for her sacrifices, for all she does 24*7*365, for all the love she gives all around
her, for all the great work she does, the way she takes care of the family, the way she is growing in her career and many more things which if laid down will take pages from my end.

But, I just have one question is it just for one day - March 8th??



 Let me try to put my thoughts via different phases of our life.
There are still regions in India or maybe even outside India where a cute little infant baby girl doesn't even get an opportunity to see her mother as she is killed inside the womb itself. Do I need to talk anything on this event of life? Just a question. Why???

Let's move ahead to next phase: School/College Girls
Luckily in cities, we are getting an opportunity to study and grow in life.  Villages are sad on that end also. Very few girls are lucky enough who are allowed to study and grow. Most of the other ones get married even before they realize that they exist. Again Why?

Giving an example of myself - my father and mother always wanted their daughter to study and do well in life so that I am self sufficient and never forced me to learn cooking or do any specific work. It was on me to do what I wanted to do. But, I heard many of our relatives/neighbors calling out to my parents that Sharmaji, this is wrong and...................... And I agree today, that I am not a great cook but I can cook to an extent that no one will remain hungry and I cook only when required. It's not my hobby. If you don't know cooking; are you not a good girl?? Do I come in bad girl's category?
Does man know everything???

Let's move to the next phase - Marriage
Each girl on this earth has the dream of getting married, leading a happy - loving life with her husband. But not many are lucky at this end. There are cases where she is burnt to death coz. of dowry; there are cases where she has to move out due to some or the other reason in her married life.
And dear friends, in any scenario; eyes are raised on girl's character. Why???

In each phase; I am not saying man are always wrong but dear friends; I want that don't be biased in saying that women have to be and are always wrong?

Normal scenarios:
When the child does something wrong; everyone points finger at the Mother. Is father not required or involved in child's upbringing. Why is mother only at fault or why can't child be at fault?

When she moves out of her marriage; what does this society say - Must be girl's mistake. Can't you wait to understand the plight she has gone through or why can't it be man coz of whom all this happened?

When she gets raped; again our society calls out - Must be girl's mistake. Imagine the state of this girl and on top of this such sentences. Will any girl ask for this to happen to herself?

When she is not able to handle the situations; she tries to kill herself - Again around you; this society will comment - She was only wrong that's why she killed herself.



Awesome. Do you want to say Women is equivalent to Wrong??? If this is the thought process, March 8th or any other date doesn't make any difference?

These are just some examples but how can we be always wrong and then one day in this year everyone appreciates us. What an irony? Why are we tested at each phase of out life?? Why no one tries to understand the reason behind each event and by default the variable of mistakes is set as women?

Out of millions; only few hundreds can survive real bad scenarios. I agree we can take inspiration from each one of those who started life in rags and now are millionaires; who could climb the Everest; who could fight the goons. But, do you think each girl is able to do this?
There are millions of cries which are not even heard out of the 4 walls?
What about those women? They don't know the difference between March 8th or March 9th. Each day/night is same for them.

Why can't we have safe, loving environment around us. Why can't man learn and instead of appreciating just on one single day - just be loving, caring, understanding each moment of life.
It's the man who need to learn and become mature in life.
She does so much as someone wrote on FB: Salute her for everything she does, (cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents,bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you.....sometimes at the cost of her own health , hobbies and beauty.

Very Happy Women's day not to just Women but to Men also!!!

God created someone who is Wise, only know to love , make sacrifices , encourages and never gives up , 

i.e. Women. 

Smiling Kabi... Always Smiling... :)

Looking at this always smiling cute little girl sitting on my side cubicle made me wish write something about her. Actually more than seeing her daily; her attitude which I felt when we went for this 10KM Marathon forced me to think and hence pen it down.
 

This cute girl - Kabi is in my Project. She joined few months back and is from our Support Team. I sit on her side and I find positivity all around me. She brings positivity, liveliness all over the floor. 

What to say about her attitude. Giving an example of this Marathon; we got this email from our Company Club. As usual without reading I deleted the email. Seems after a day; we were

chit-chatting and she asked me about this. Since I deleted without even opening the email; she forwarded the email and made me register; and not just register but asked to me go for 10 KM one as she had applied for the same. As she asked me; so I did without thinking. But when the d-day was coming; I asked her don't you think we did a mistake by registering for 10KM as my friends are laughing on me. She said - " Nitu let people laugh. It's fine. We might not complete; but we are being optimist and all these people who are laughing are pessimist. Organizers will not force us to run. Let us try. If we make it; we would feel good". 

And friends, It was her optimism and her attitude which made me ran 10 KM. So, it's you Kabi. Thanks for it.

It's not just Marathon. Don't remember the topic for our talk; but I remember one line of hers. We should not get ready or dress up for others. We should do it for ourselves also sometimes. We need to smile for ourselves also. Why is it that always a girl has to get dressed up, look good for some one else. Why??? 

So very true dear.

I don't know her completely but my dear Kabi you are an Angel. You are beautiful from heart and for sure you are a beauty. Your dance during our AHM was awesome. Anyone who sees it can forget his/her tension. Its a sweet medicine.

I can write pages of different talks we both had. She is full of energy and smiles.

But herein; I would want to add from my end; maybe many have said it before. 

                                    Our life 

                                          Starts with the cry; Ends with the cry - 

                                                Let us fill this blank of Start and End with Endless Smiles

                                                                                   Keep Smiling

For sure, there are tensions, issues, problems in life and its not in just mine but in each one's life. Even in the life of the person who is rich; even who is old, even who is young, even who has won Ms World, even who has won any match or anyone on this Earth.

These problems will not go anywhere; they are part n parcel of us.  And they have to be there to get the best out of us and give the best till we are here. So better we:

Live ---------------------------> Laugh --------------------------------> Love

Even I Want To....

 


Even I Want To Cry...
Even I Want To Smile...
Even I Want To Open Up...






Howling at 3 AM in the night; eyes full of tears; praying to God "Please give me sleep, Even I want to sleep. Please let me sleep...God, I have office at 9 AM in the morning, Please give me sleep."

All alone in the room, suddenly my past starts dancing in front of me and I am not able to sleep. One after the other the events are flashing. My heart is heavy as if 100 Kg of box has been kept on it, each moment I feel as if my little brain will come out of the head like a chicken popping out of the egg.
I feel like vomiting, rush towards the washbasin, coughing loudly...I come out, switch on the lights; stand in front of the mirror and look at myself. Eyes are swollen; hair are untidy and ....empty eyes gazing at myself. Room is fully lighted but I am not able to see even streak of it. I have no strength in me. Am I going to die?
I am looking for answers which will never get answered. This is one of the similar nights when there is no sleep in my eyes - just nothing, or is it something or is it everything.
Why this keeps happening to me. Why? Why ? Why?


[ Friends, this is the starting of the small story, I would be putting it across through different posts on my blog. The girl here is named Tanya - a girl of my story. She will be narrating everything in her own words. 
Look forward for your views. ]

Blasts in Life

Watching 'Mumbai Meri Jaan' on TV.
The scene where the wife is in panic and tells her husband that she was trying to reach him just after the blasts; telling him how tensed she was about him; reminded me of the blasts in Delhi on 29 Oct 2005. I was just 100-200 meters away from the Sarojini Nagar spot where the blast took place. In actual, I was standing beside the shop few minutes back where this happened.
Nothing happened to me; not even a scratch but the sound of that blast, people running all around me stopped my mind. I didn't understand all what was happening and why. I took more than an hour to reach my home which wass less than a km from this market spot. Not sure, which road did I traversed. My parents were worried and maybe they would have thought for a moment that they lost their daughter; they were trying to call but network was busy. There was no electricity in that area. I was terrified. Not sure; maybe I don't remember exactly now what all was going in my mind at that particular moment; but this situation was gruesome.

I reached home. Parents were happy to see their daughter safe and sound. I can imagine all what they must have gone during that one hour. All the relatives were calling up to find out if everyone was safe at our home. Watching this movie while putting down my thoughts; makes me think of all the questions - What, Why, How..............Seems there is no answer to these questions with anyone of us.

I had just completed my Engineering and was leaving my home for the first time after a week of this event; For the first time, I was going away from my parents. I never shared with anyone; but I got scared, got scared if something happens; if something goes wrong, if something ....if something....
No one is ever prepared for any such things in life.
Is it destiny that something of this sort has to happen; so it happens. Does it mean, is it written by God that some of us would have to leave this Earth via these methods. Why? The people who leave the Earth; leave their families - Go but what about their family members/friends/relatives who are still on this Earth. What all do they go through?? I have felt/seen this but if I would have gone on that day.........

This is just a movie but for sure how do people actually feel after such events. And this doesn't happen just in our country but it is happening all over the world. Feelings after all are same everywhere; they don't see religion, culture, countries, color or anything - It is same everywhere and in everyone.

I was lucky enough and was saved on that day to live more and see this world. Till this moment; I was always safeguarded by my parents - brother, safe and sound within the four walls of home. Such blasts are visible to all but are many other volcanoes which keep erupting in our lives. I am still learning and trying to understand all the different sorts of blast which keep happening in life. Are all these learning which helps us grow in a better way or .....???

The 2 minute silence in the movie teaches that life still keeps moving and we have to keep moving and need to be strong enough to fight all the blasts in life. Blasts can come in any form but we need to come out of it soon so as to live this life with all smiles. After all, its our life. Life needs to come in Order after any event.
We need to say 'It OK' with a big smile.

For sure, we can keep going for miles even after we think we can't. That is Life. 

We need to be Stronger than Yesterday.

Keep Smiling.... :)

Be Quick; But Don't Hurry!!!

Zoooooooooooooooooooom………..Bike passed by me so fast that it almost gave me a heart attack. I stopped for 3-4 seconds, looked at both the biker and the bike which were already very far from me and nodded my head.I normally walk down to near by places and even to my office so have experienced such minor heart attacks n number of time.

 

Today being a Saturday and I was not in a hurry and luckily mind was also not occupied with anything so somehow my mind drifted towards this bike and biker.

Why was he driving so fast? Was he one of those young brats – rash driver or was he in a hurry?

Normally when we see any biker or car driving like this, we feel like shouting at them, abusing (if one can) and ask - Hey why are you driving so fast? Can’t you see that people are walking on the footpath or crossing the road and many more things can be said to him.

For sure rash driving is bad but today I felt that is it always done intentionally or it becomes a requirement of that particular moment.

The person who is driving fast must be of doing so coz. of two reasons – One is for fun, show off and etc.. But there can be one more reason which we normally never think that he might be in a hurry due to some genuine reason, a reason which is making him break laws, giving minor heart attacks to people on the road and would not want to say the worse of the things which can happen in such situations.

I am not here to write if rash driving is right or wrong. For sure, it is wrong and would never approve of it or ever try it.

This situation made me think that normally the person who know the reality or is facing the situation would only know what n why is he going through. The person walking on his side would not understand the facts and hence should not give any judgement without knowing the reality. One should not just start thinking bad or feel bad or to even say good about this person who is going through. He/She might not even have the time to explain the situation to the world. He is just running n running.

 BUT

Somebody has put it down so well. Might make us think atleast once:

I'm in a hurry to get things done
Oh I rush and rush until life's no fun
All I've really gotta do is live and die
But I'm in a hurry and don't know why....

But, not sure still would say one should try not to be in hurry. We should not loose our inner peace for whatsoever reason as someone has said - "Nature is never in hurry but still accomplishes everything"
If we want to live this life, enjoy the breathes we have; we need to live each moment and grow with the each smile of ours and around us. Life is more clear when we see and feel each moment but the time when we start running, it becomes blurred. We can find ways if we are not in hurry.

“Growth happens slowly, slow down today enjoy life without been in hurry”

Keep Smiling... :)

Dot is ‘The End’ and ‘The Beginning’....

Last 5 months, working, thinking, eating, sleeping Dot…Dot…Dot…Hey, don’t look at me like this, I am working on a Project which is known as ‘Dot’ and it’s a continuous work and hence my releases are Dot Releases. So, now you might have got the hint that this Dot of my life made me think about this word dot and hence this post.

You must have got confused that what is this Dot Release. Yes, I am working in a project wherein the Project which is always live and dynamic and goes for deployment almost every 2 weeks and so is known as Dot Release. This post is not make you understand the technicality of my work, which even I don’t understand. For a change, let me get out of the Official Dot.

Dot Dot Dot (……………..) isn’t this part n parcel of our lives. We all have dots in our life from the day we land on this earth; not even land even before that. Our beginning is with dots and our body is made up of so many and different type of dots (RBC, WBC, etccc……)

Learning of alphabets starts with joining of dots.

Each dot of our friendship helps us to make friends, networks and what not.

Dot is the beginning and the End. Did I confuse you?

Let me try to put it again. First I will talk about end and then the beginning…..

When we put a single dot at the end of the sentence, it is the full stop and that’s the end. Similarly, one day each one of us is going to meet our dot and that will be the end of our journey on this earth. Also, why go till the end, even sometimes we have to put dot to certain relations in our life as they hurt us. So that’s the end. For sure, there are many more examples of the ending Dot.

So, you must be thinking how can dot start the sentence?? It’s the dot only which starts the sentence. Since, we have put the dot to the first sentence, we can write a new one. As we put end to certain things-certain relations; which give pain, then only we can get smiles in our life. It is the dot only which gives us the direction to remain connected and hence I feel these dots if connected in a particular and the right direction gives the hope,

hope to get back the life again, hope to smile again and surely to make a difference in our life.

As I wait for my dots to get connected one day and for sure never end, I just wanna say it again Dot is ‘The End’ and ‘The Beginning’……….

Fight between Sun and Cloud!!!

<< Something which I wrote sometime back in January, but now got time to post>>>

 

Few days back, I took this early morning flight from Delhi. All of you who are not from North must have seen on FB if not newspapers that it’s been very cold, foggy, biting, sometimes harsh and otherwise crispy weather in Delhi and around. Luckily, even I got the opportunity to feel the same for few days.

I am not here to describe the weather. I was dead tired coz. of my hectic schedule of last 2-3 days and I thought I will doze off and will have a good sleep for the next 2 hours so as to get ready for the as usual busy day. But something caught my attention and my plan of sleeping went in water.

Looking outside the window pane of the plane made my eyes forget the sleep and wanting to live that moments via my eyes open rather than closed. 6 layers of Color around the plane got this amateur Zoe to put down something. From bottom to top (BlackàDark Orangeà Light Yellow àGryeishà Off White àLight Blue) For sure, this is not VIBGYOR, but it was awesome.

As I was enjoying looking at the beautiful layer of lovely colors, suddenly a big rush of dark greyish clouds came from somewhere in between my eyes and those colors. Gradually, layer by layer, these black clouds took over the beautiful layer of colors. Poor lovely dark orange was trying its best not to get knocked out by this dark cloud. But, even inspite of trying hard, after sometime, there was no other color which could be seen but only the dark, grey clouds all around the plane. Something like, its 12 in the afternoon and suddenly there is no sun (Solar Eclipse). Full darkness all around one.

Huge turbulence in the air, the pilot asked the passengers not to panic and fasten the seat belts; But the flight did not stop, it kept flying through these dark clouds which was trying its level best to stop the journey of 200+ people. 

  

But, our plane and indirectly we 200+ people gave a good fight to the black clouds and after some time, we could see the glowing red orangish sun. It was lovely to see so much brightness and feel the same inside. I could feel the energy flowing in me.

As usual, I tried to relate this to the human life. Whenever any hindrance comes in our life, some of us keep moving and others stop. Isn’t it? Wasn’t this scenario so similar to our lives? Not sure, about the world, but from my view point I feel this journey of mine is very well part of each one’s of our life. This flight journey was so similar to the life which we all face/lead. Sometimes, life is full of sun and otherwise, it’s surrounded by black clouds.  There is no way out that we can completely block these black clouds from entering our lives. But, it’s our call to give some punches to these black clouds to come out as winners. We should not stop even when the clouds are trying to overpower us. We need to give a good fight to these clouds and not let them surround us for long. As we keep walking through the odds of our life, we will face the turbulences which will deter us from moving ahead, which will ask us to stop, which will take off all our energy but as we keep moving, for sure we will see the bright streaks of light which will give back our energy to move and enjoy this life of ours. One day for sure, we will see that bright glowing Orange Reddish Sun which will again bring the smile on our face. Now it is our call what do we want to have.

Shades up or down of life, either just stand when surrounded by the clouds or keep moving so that we get to see the Sun one day.    Keep Smiling... :)))