Why Me???

Teardrops slowly fall from my eyes as I look to the sky, and I question how come life keeps passing me right on by.  I just wonder why I can't escape, is this my fate?  To always be unhappy and how much longer must I wait...

Why Me???

I am sure, this question comes on and off in everybody's mind.

Recently saw this advertisement of Yuvraj Singh after his victory over cancer - WHY ME. I don’t remember exactly, but the ad seems to be for an Insurance Company.

But, this "WHY ME" triggered lots and lots of questions-thoughts inside this small brain of mine. The important fact of life and death and the complete process which we all walk through from the day we start breathing inside our mother's womb till we get onto the funeral pyre. 

Small baby who dies even before he takes birth; Mother thinks - WHY ME?

Now, if the child comes out and takes in the fresh air of our universe but something wrong happens later or is born with some abnormalities.

Again the mother says - WHY ME? On top of this she thinks wish the child had not seen the first rays of light of this world.

Now suppose, if with the God's grace and Doctor's abilities, all goes well.

He grows up to be a naughty child and one who doesn’t study much. Again the mom thinks - WHY my child only??Why "A's" child is so good and studies well. etccc.......

Let's make this child intelligent and smart but when he gives his Entrance Exams after school and is not able to make into one of the IITs or AIIMS by just one mark. Again the mother and now even this teenager thinks - WHY ME??? I was so intelligent and smart but still could not get through and now I am standing outside the gates of these prestigious colleges of India coz, some lucky friend of mine got through. But, did he ever think for all these 16-17 years, he was the lucky mascot for so many.

 Irony doesn’t stop here.

As we progress in our life from college to job to married life to parenthood to some illness on the way and even on the last step of our life - Death, if everything goes well, we just smile and thank god but never think WHY ME.

When even one event of the life takes a different turn and the Red Signal of our life does not change to Green for few minutes, hours, days, months and years...

We start asking again n again - WHY ME????

For sure, this moment of WHY ME is bad and it hurts and maybe sometimes we wish, if we had not taken this decision or wish to die or wish if some miracle could happen to pull us out of this situation or just wants to sleep for a thousand years, or just not exist, or just not be aware that you do exist, or something like that.  Wish the earth stops rotating and revolving or something which keeps you away from everybody and so many other thoughts keep spinning in your head.

At this point, somehow one more thought comes to my mind that all those books which talk about leadership and ask us to focus, concentrate and grow as a leader.

Is it easy to come out of this WHY ME and keep moving on the path of this leadership???? I still have to learn and walk this path.

As some great people have said---->

" Our life's a stage, a comedy: either learn to play and take it lightly, or bear its troubles patiently." Maybe during those WHY ME situations, we need to be patient and work to make the traffic signal Green.

OR

" Life is like the dice that, falling, still show a different face. So life, though it remains the same, is always presenting different aspects."

Keep Smiling..... :)

Does our life depend on the movement of Moon/Stars/Sun?

We all have heard about astrology, sun signs, our stars, palmistry, our life being ruled by movement of Stars/Moon/Sun. I will not say if I have never believed all this. It will be a lie. I do believe. But, more then this, I believe in that super power which exists and which guides us to to do good in life for our own selves and to other beings. Also, I believe in myself, that who actually I am and can be to myself and to this world. I can make or break my life; by my thoughts, by my way of living the same.

Even today I do have, somewhere deep in the brains or in the heart,belief on this connection between what is happening in our lives and reason for which are these stars and astrology. But, for sure, there is a doubt now..Hmmm...let me try to recall some instances in my life and some in my friends' lives.

When I was a kiddoo, going to the school. As usual, not studying before hand and getting tensed a day before the exam. Sitting in front of the God, I used to pray "God, this time. Please save me. Pls...From next time, I swear, will study hard from day 1 and will not trouble you, Pls, God. Pls................." Big tears from my eyes used to melt my dear God and hence at the end I used to get good marks. Thanks to HIM!!!

One day, I heard one of my friends saying that when she was crying the other day before her exams; her brother explained her one simple thing - You are wasting your time by crying. You can use the same time to study and give your best. There will be situations in life when these tears will not be able to help you. You will have to be bold enough to face the world. And, Once, you are sure, that you have given your best, just say to God - "Hey God, I have tried my level best. Now. I leave on you. Please help me and do the best for me". I really liked this. Till date, I have been following this along with the on and off cries in front of the God. Things have worked and if they haven't worked, I thought, maybe it was not for me and God knew the best so I didn't get it and will surely get the best later.

Grew from childhood to teens to adult hood with this small funda of life, trying to look at the positive side of whatever was happening. Trying my level best to get the best, to do the best in each aspect of life, career, studies, family, friends....Always being optimistic of the things and keeping that smiling face always on....coz, whatever was happening was happening for a reason, so not to worry just keep giving your best....Many things happened in between. Let's skip the autobiography of myself.. :)))

Class 11th which decides what and how you will be moving in your life. I took PCMB which is considered to be one of the toughest selections. Took it, did well in boards but could not fulfill the dreams of seeing myself saving the lives of others. Went for Engineering, the next line which was never the plan; never dreamt to be one, but I graduated as an Electronics Engineer. Sometimes, I used to think, Somebody had rightly said --->"Whatever happens, happens for Good". Maybe I would not have been a good doctor and God knew this so, he took the right decision for me.

          Some more years of my life went in getting graduated, first job, post   

          graduation, 2008-09 recession time getting the job with the

          God's grace.  

          Finally landed up in my current company.

          Most of all this said above has happened with all of us. Some of my

          friends, faced some of the really bad times of life.  And being their   

          friend, I always kept saying that something really good is in store for

          you. If some body's love life was in a bad shape due to some or the

         other reason, my response in handling it was trying to look in future    

         and being optimistic and positive. I could talk to them for hours trying  

         to pull them out of all those negative thoughts and saying that If 

         something has to go, it will go;don't hold it as its not yours and all

         those fundas..which we keep liking on FB.

There are many more such instances which can be outlined...

Getting back to any common man's life(Man or a Woman). As part of the Sine Curve, sometimes, things are going too good. He is doing good in his career, personal life is rocking but one decision of the life brings the sine curve below and it goes even beyond the basement that it changes his/her life, his lifestyle, his thoughts, his way of looking at the things, his career, everything, his future....Why???

Even if he tries to come out of it, he is not able to. Does this Shani kee Sadesati concept exists??? That means, if some body's life has started to move down, it will keep moving down for years??? Why??? Why ??? Till the Moon or Sun God will not move from this position to the next position.

Why some body's patience is tested to the level that the person can breakdown? Is there any learning in actual in this process of Sine Curve of God? There are many such questions which keep coming in my mind, seeing and listening to my friends and hence the conflict to believe the belief which has been there always with me since childhood that whatever happens, happens for a reason and something better of the best in in store for myself and one day I will get my share of happiness; but here I want to ask if a person looses all the patience and his hopes of rising up one day, then what is this Better of the Best???

Today sitting on the terrace and looking at the moon makes me look back at my life and some of the lives of my friends, that does this movement of the star/moon/sun make a difference in any body's lives? Does God really exist and is he doing all this intentionally - Why - Because we have to follow the theme of the movie 'Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gam'???

I agree with the lines that success is sweeter after all the struggle and success is more valued and you will understand what smile is etccc......................................................But............Why????