Clock is Ticking ...But we are Statued!!!

Sitting at home - quarantined staring at CN Tower from last 30 min - thinking "What Next..."

All of us are trying to keep ourselves busy by either baking, cooking, exercising, reading, binge watching netflix/amazon prime, video calls with family/friends and lot many activities... 

But, did any one of us ever dream of such a day in our life? Did any one of us ever think that this could happen? These are all movie themes, isn't it? Did anyone of us ever think that there can be a prison worldwide where we all will be forced to sit tight - waiting for the term to end.

There are lakhs of people out there dyeing, millions diagnosed & they don't know what, why, how, and again why. They all are just thinking at this moment - Why them? Any answer?

All the stories are heartbreaking of what's going around - families are getting finished, cities are getting wiped off. This is not just one home, or one city or one country - Its the whole world which is impacted. 

Why???

Is God punishing us for something?

Is Nature against us? Did we hurt nature so much that it's giving back to us? We are seeing giphy where animals are roaming freely on the road now. Is this what nature wants? Why???

No one has an answer - Neither any scientist, nor any prophet.

No Logic.

Moreover, there is no ETA on when this will get over.

Life has gone on hold for all of us:

- Studies are impacted.

- Students were supposed to start life in Universities

- Work is impacted.

- Economy is impacted.

- People lost their jobs.

- Some new journeys were supposed to start - On Hold.

- No one can move from one place to another. Just stay where    

  you are - On Hold

Can we put time also on hold or can we go back to the start of 2020. Start it afresh. But till date I have grown with the fact that time never waits for anyone? If time is not waiting and Clock is just ticking as usual - why are we statued?

Remember the game "London Statue" that's what we used to call as kids - it was fun to be frozen for couple of seconds. It brings out the smile when its for seconds but tears when it's for months. All of us want to move around, go outside, meet family/friends. 

I would still say my usual "Keep Smiling"😊

For sure, Sun will rise; this situation will also change. Life which has gone on hold will start moving; we all will meet, travel around without social distancing🤗. 
Be Safe. God Bless All. 

What should a common man do?

One school of thought  says: Remain strong as this is a way you build positivity around yourself & others. Good things will happen in your life. So Be strong - Be positive always..






Other school of thought says: God tests your patience & is always with you...If you breakdown - he will always come & help you.

Both of them seems to be related but if you try to look practically at both the views:
a. If we remain strong - then God will never come to help us as he comes only when we breakdown.
b. If we breakdown then positivity goes away from us so good things will not happen....

What should we do?What should we follow?Why is there so much of confusion in life? What should a common man do?

I have always tried to be positive in life. I have believed that things will be good one day - even when it was exams in college/school, work or situations in life. One day - maybe even if it comes with a delay but one day it does come as heard that God knows what's good & right.. :)
If I breakdown today (which I do sometimes after all even I am a human being - my friends know I used to be so worried before exams for e.g); start crying & loose myself - will it help me? I might impact my health, I might loose some valuable moments & there is a high chance that in this world where all of us are running 24*7 - no one is there to hear it out.  It's you who can make yourself happy. So, why to loose moments - cribbing, crying & doing what you don't want to do...

I feel both the views go hand in hand - God is always there with us to keep us strong & to make things better in our lives...Life is short - So what say - what should we do?  

'Be Strong' and 'Keep Smiling' &'Live the moments'!!!

Crying Rocks

In front of my office there was a land full of trees. Few weeks back, saw that all the trees were gone - Big cranes, machines & man in helmet moving around the area. I asked my colleague that what is happening & he told seems a building is on the way here. This city doesn’t have many building but for sure still thought of Mother Nature, felt bad for few seconds & then forgot.

After few days, was working on my system & suddenly felt the tremors - wondered

if it was an earthquake. Got up & saw all my colleagues looking outside. So, as per the human nature, even I went & saw the smoke from the newly created barren land. So I asked – Hey, what’s that & 'Fau' told they are blasting so as to remove the rocks & lay the foundation for the building....I looked at the black smoke still coming & stood there eagerly waiting for the next blast.
Gosh....!!!! It was an explosion – I was seeing it for the first time in my life & it was not a great thing to see but out of nowhere I just said that why they are doing - poor rocks & this colleague of mine 'Fau' smiled & said – Oh Yeah - Rocks must be crying or they must be sad, isn’t it??? And he smiled again..... :)

And this made me think – Oh Yes – Why not??CRYING ROCKS!!!

Rocks as we see with our eyes are strong & non-living. For sure - it doesn’t make a difference to them either you blast or water them. No difference.....Right??

Is it similar for the people are strong enough & many a times we call few of them – ‘Sturdier as Rocks’ / 'Strong as Rocks'. They can take up anything, live through any situation of life, strong enough to handle the worst & the best of life, cope up with bumpy roads of life and what not…..These rocky people know how to balance & have the strength that helps in dealing with the life’s challenges which knocks us down & they know that it’s the person himself who can deal with the hardships of life & it is he himself who can come out of the tunnel & find the light.

So does it mean that we should not think even once before we decide to hurt them, blast them, explode them, and leave them to die...

But, for sure it does not mean that they don’t have emotions, they don’t have feelings & they don’t want the world to be by their side. It’s just that they don’t show their feelings but they need the support & world to understand them. We cannot just keep blasting them.

We are so mean that we appreciate them for being strong & we don't feel anything for them as they are strong. It's like we can keep hurting them & still want them to keep standing as is.. Stand like Rocks to face the storms of life..

What happens when life becomes a Joke???

We always knew table, chair, TV does not have life but clarity came in when we were taught the difference of Living & Non-Living beings in school.
Maybe that was the basis or foundation for us to understand that we live a life.

The life which is full of emotions, feelings of different kinds - care, support, love, hatred, anger, smiles, tears & many more....The life which is surrounded by family & friends..The life wherein we live for ourselves for sure but many a times for others also. The life where we have to give so many exams - Exams which make us grow professionally & also exams which make us grow personally.




Many a times life turns up - down. Many of us learn through these challenges & many loose themselves. There are phase in life when you don't know what you are doing & why you are doing. People keep asking what do you want to do, what's you plan 'for this', 'for that' , 'for next that' in life & 'next that'...And you don't have answer even for the 'first that' as you don't know where is your  life going & what's happening with it. You don't know what you are doing right now is why you are doing.
                           
                                   

                         Does this mean at that point - Life becomes a Joke???

                                         

Nothing is Right or Wrong

Deepti, a close friend of mine always says one thing - Nothing is Right or Wrong. I never went in for a discussion with her but somewhere in the heart did not completely agree with her. But, yesterday a talk with Pramilla which started with office discussion and turned out to be full length life discussion and somewhere in between I said"Nothing is Right or Wrong".
I felt I never agreed to Deepti but yesterday when I mentioned this to Pramilla; I felt I do believe in it but its just that I never agreed; maybe was afraid to believe the fact of life.

Our discussion got over but I went into my thought mode as usual. Looked back at my life and found this statement so very true and tried thinking on this from each angle.

Not sure why but when I was a school kid I always wanted to be a doctor but was always afraid of injections/blood etcc..could not even dissect rat without crying. But still wanted to be a doctor. And when I could not clear my Medical Entrance Exams I felt why this wrong happened with me ....Why Why....But, if I look back today; suppose by mistake I would have cleared the exam; not sure if I would have been a good doctor....I know I did not turnout to be a good Engineer also.. :) So what's right or wrong?? Don't know..

Looking at some of my friends life..
For one of them - Her engagement was broken with the person whom she loved the most; She felt its all wrong and wrong. And just one question...Why Why....Let's not get into the reasons; but later, she found someone really nice who loved her like anything. So can we say that what happened first was right or wrong?? What do you say?

Other friend of mine did not get the job he wanted and felt it was all wrong and as usual Why..Why?? Later he got something really good and today he is in one of the top positions of the company..So What's right and wrong??


So, there are many more things which keep happening in our lives - breakdowns, loose people, break-ups, not getting the jobs at the right time, and many more things which if highlighted will bring tears.
That very moment when it happens we feel why this wrong is happening with me. Why....Why??
But, it seems the world famous quote 'Whatever happens; happens for a reason' is true. Later in life remembering this sad moment of our life might bring the smile on our face.

There have been so many ups and down even in my life. Even if I believe in all whats written above; I will still keep asking myself - "Why that happened to me - Why that wrong - What wrong etc..?". After all I am a human being and not yet attained nirvana; hence the question "Why" never leaves me and it is difficult to think completely that there is nothing right or wrong.The day the person realizes, understand the depth of this sentence - the person will be so very happy. Wish I attain that status soon...Amen.. :)

Isn't this Right or Wrong similar to Black or White; binary - one or zero. You can put some some of the things/situations/events of your life into one of these buckets but still you would be left with some which doesn't fall anywhere; what about them?
Let's take the example of the most lovely feeling - Can we say Love is right or wrong. It is just a different feeling; something we all want; something which can never be explained in words. And I am talking of parental love, sibling love, partner love, friendly love....When it brings smile on our face - we say its right - its all red and pink. But, when due to some reasons - it brings tears to our eyes - everything becomes black, zero and wrong.
So such events/things - let's keep them as it is and try not to put them in Right or Wrong Bucket. If you feel that it was wrong; don't loose hope, just try to resolve it. But even after you have tried; it does not work; smile and don't feel bad. As it was neither Right nor Wrong...

Keep Smiling.. :)

Women-Should we not be appreciated & loved everyday and not just March 8th?

Everywhere on FB/Newspaper/TV/Company Celebrations we can see women being appreciated for being on this Earth, for her sacrifices, for all she does 24*7*365, for all the love she gives all around
her, for all the great work she does, the way she takes care of the family, the way she is growing in her career and many more things which if laid down will take pages from my end.

But, I just have one question is it just for one day - March 8th??



 Let me try to put my thoughts via different phases of our life.
There are still regions in India or maybe even outside India where a cute little infant baby girl doesn't even get an opportunity to see her mother as she is killed inside the womb itself. Do I need to talk anything on this event of life? Just a question. Why???

Let's move ahead to next phase: School/College Girls
Luckily in cities, we are getting an opportunity to study and grow in life.  Villages are sad on that end also. Very few girls are lucky enough who are allowed to study and grow. Most of the other ones get married even before they realize that they exist. Again Why?

Giving an example of myself - my father and mother always wanted their daughter to study and do well in life so that I am self sufficient and never forced me to learn cooking or do any specific work. It was on me to do what I wanted to do. But, I heard many of our relatives/neighbors calling out to my parents that Sharmaji, this is wrong and...................... And I agree today, that I am not a great cook but I can cook to an extent that no one will remain hungry and I cook only when required. It's not my hobby. If you don't know cooking; are you not a good girl?? Do I come in bad girl's category?
Does man know everything???

Let's move to the next phase - Marriage
Each girl on this earth has the dream of getting married, leading a happy - loving life with her husband. But not many are lucky at this end. There are cases where she is burnt to death coz. of dowry; there are cases where she has to move out due to some or the other reason in her married life.
And dear friends, in any scenario; eyes are raised on girl's character. Why???

In each phase; I am not saying man are always wrong but dear friends; I want that don't be biased in saying that women have to be and are always wrong?

Normal scenarios:
When the child does something wrong; everyone points finger at the Mother. Is father not required or involved in child's upbringing. Why is mother only at fault or why can't child be at fault?

When she moves out of her marriage; what does this society say - Must be girl's mistake. Can't you wait to understand the plight she has gone through or why can't it be man coz of whom all this happened?

When she gets raped; again our society calls out - Must be girl's mistake. Imagine the state of this girl and on top of this such sentences. Will any girl ask for this to happen to herself?

When she is not able to handle the situations; she tries to kill herself - Again around you; this society will comment - She was only wrong that's why she killed herself.



Awesome. Do you want to say Women is equivalent to Wrong??? If this is the thought process, March 8th or any other date doesn't make any difference?

These are just some examples but how can we be always wrong and then one day in this year everyone appreciates us. What an irony? Why are we tested at each phase of out life?? Why no one tries to understand the reason behind each event and by default the variable of mistakes is set as women?

Out of millions; only few hundreds can survive real bad scenarios. I agree we can take inspiration from each one of those who started life in rags and now are millionaires; who could climb the Everest; who could fight the goons. But, do you think each girl is able to do this?
There are millions of cries which are not even heard out of the 4 walls?
What about those women? They don't know the difference between March 8th or March 9th. Each day/night is same for them.

Why can't we have safe, loving environment around us. Why can't man learn and instead of appreciating just on one single day - just be loving, caring, understanding each moment of life.
It's the man who need to learn and become mature in life.
She does so much as someone wrote on FB: Salute her for everything she does, (cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents,bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you.....sometimes at the cost of her own health , hobbies and beauty.

Very Happy Women's day not to just Women but to Men also!!!

God created someone who is Wise, only know to love , make sacrifices , encourages and never gives up , 

i.e. Women. 

Smiling Kabi... Always Smiling... :)

Looking at this always smiling cute little girl sitting on my side cubicle made me wish write something about her. Actually more than seeing her daily; her attitude which I felt when we went for this 10KM Marathon forced me to think and hence pen it down.
 

This cute girl - Kabi is in my Project. She joined few months back and is from our Support Team. I sit on her side and I find positivity all around me. She brings positivity, liveliness all over the floor. 

What to say about her attitude. Giving an example of this Marathon; we got this email from our Company Club. As usual without reading I deleted the email. Seems after a day; we were

chit-chatting and she asked me about this. Since I deleted without even opening the email; she forwarded the email and made me register; and not just register but asked to me go for 10 KM one as she had applied for the same. As she asked me; so I did without thinking. But when the d-day was coming; I asked her don't you think we did a mistake by registering for 10KM as my friends are laughing on me. She said - " Nitu let people laugh. It's fine. We might not complete; but we are being optimist and all these people who are laughing are pessimist. Organizers will not force us to run. Let us try. If we make it; we would feel good". 

And friends, It was her optimism and her attitude which made me ran 10 KM. So, it's you Kabi. Thanks for it.

It's not just Marathon. Don't remember the topic for our talk; but I remember one line of hers. We should not get ready or dress up for others. We should do it for ourselves also sometimes. We need to smile for ourselves also. Why is it that always a girl has to get dressed up, look good for some one else. Why??? 

So very true dear.

I don't know her completely but my dear Kabi you are an Angel. You are beautiful from heart and for sure you are a beauty. Your dance during our AHM was awesome. Anyone who sees it can forget his/her tension. Its a sweet medicine.

I can write pages of different talks we both had. She is full of energy and smiles.

But herein; I would want to add from my end; maybe many have said it before. 

                                    Our life 

                                          Starts with the cry; Ends with the cry - 

                                                Let us fill this blank of Start and End with Endless Smiles

                                                                                   Keep Smiling

For sure, there are tensions, issues, problems in life and its not in just mine but in each one's life. Even in the life of the person who is rich; even who is old, even who is young, even who has won Ms World, even who has won any match or anyone on this Earth.

These problems will not go anywhere; they are part n parcel of us.  And they have to be there to get the best out of us and give the best till we are here. So better we:

Live ---------------------------> Laugh --------------------------------> Love